Wedding Superstitions, Customs and Traditions

Ever wonder how certain wedding customs come to exist today?  Or, are there unique customs you want to include into your wedding due to family heritage, but don't know where to start?  And what about all those superstitions? Learning where marriage customs began their start is a way to grasp that you are a bride, a title held by many women before you, and maybe embrace some customs to include into your own wedding.

Some of the superstitions still exist today, such as the "Something old, something new", not seeing the groom before the wedding, etc.  There are some that are really far out there, and unconventional for the modern bride, but still fun to learn of...good to know for planning a bridal shower trivia type game, though! (hint, hint, shower planners!)

In my research I have found a few tid bits interesting to learn about.  On WedThemes.com, a few superstitions stand out, funny to me now, especially having already been married.  One superstition states "What Kind of Bride" a woman will be, based upon the month of marriage:


"A January bride will be a prudent housekeeper, and very good tempered.
A February bride will be an affectionate wife, And a tender mother.
A March bride will be a frivolous chatterbox, Somewhat given to quarreling.
An April bride will be inconsistent, or forceful, But well-meaning.
A May bride will be handsome, agreeable, And practical.
A June bride will be impetuous, And generous.
A July bride will be handsome, But a trifle quick-tempered.
An August bride will be agreeable, And practical as well.
A September bride will be discreet, affable, And much liked.
An October bride will be pretty, coquettish, Loving but jealous.
A November bride will be liberal and kind, But sometimes cold.
A December bride will be fond of novelty, Entertaining but extravagant."


I chuckled at this because I wed in April, and not sure if the old fashioned "April Bride" is me!

Another one is "The Day of Month" will determine the couple's marriage:


"Monday for wealth
Tuesday for health
Wednesday the best day of all
Thursday for losses
Friday for crosses
Saturday for no luck at all"


Again I chuckled, because I wed on a Saturday!  Hrmph.  And, really, we are nearing the end of the 1st decade of the new millennium, so, these are out of the door, because we all know weekends are the best dates to marry, more and more so on Thursdays and Friday to save on cost, and uniquely during the week, at any given time.  Old superstitions don't drive the dates we choose, available slots, times, and other engagements do.  Funny that Sunday is missing from the list, when people are getting married on Sundays nowadays, but was essentially forbidden in the past.

My favorite superstition is the ringing of the "Wedding Bells".

"People would bring bells, pots, pans and any other thing that they could bang and make a loud discordant noise with. This was said to drive away the evil spirits who might be lingering near the couple."

I rather enjoy this thought, because we actually had real old wedding bells in the chapel of our church ring as soon as we stepped out from the church and onto the steps leading down to University Drive in Tempe, Arizona.  The streets were busy with ASU students milling about, average Saturday afternoon traffic, and all passerbys stopped to honk their horns, ring their bicycle bells, clap applause, hooted and hollered, it was a great feeling, a bit surprising, and it felt "old fashioned". Of course nowadays people aren't outright scaring off evil spirits, but to be met by the outpouring of the public was surreal, a moment I will cherish.  Some traditions and superstitions are worth continuing, while others are worth knowing and learning about, and maybe glad we don't get spit on as we walk down the aisle!

To read more superstitions, here's a link to the fore mentioned website: WedThemes.com

A few websites have all areas covered concerning cultural traditions and customs.  Depending upon your own famiy's heritage and ancestry, and that of your to-be spouse's, these are fun to learn about, and maybe find a way to join old customs, and intertwine them with your own unique custom.

TheKnot.com has a pretty extensive page with all sorts of customs and traditions information, topics and photos of people whom have shared their customs.  Some topics are traditional vows, wedding flower traditions, and even how to make your own custom.

Beau-Coup.com offers a page dedicated to cultures and country traditions.  Find out what traditions are carried out in Europe, Asia, Africa, all over the world.  Unique customs take place in India, for example, with many ceremonies during the wedding week all leading up to the ceremony.  Japan's wedding traditions are seeped in a long history.  I have witnessed a Shinto wedding taking place, I was in awe of the tradition and purity of the event.  Its fun to witness such beauty in other cultures, and interesting to learn of.  Makes one think of how being a bride, that title, is shared the world over, all brides are the same, nervous and eager, and bringing one's own family's traditions and customs into the union of marriage is sacred for many reasons.

Enjoy learning the many unique customs that exist, and see if any are worth bringing into your own wedding, or make your own custom to start in your family's traditions for your future brides and grooms to carry forward.

Happy planning!