Whether you are saving to live with your soon to spouse after you tie the knot, or taking the plunge before the big day, we have some great tips to share with you to help bring balance to this very big change and step in any relationship.
This topic does remind me of that "Friends" episode, when Chandler moved into Monica's apartment, and the hilarity that ensued with his stuff being in with her pretty well appointed items. That scenario might ring true for many, or not at all, but hopefully the info shared today is of some help to you! Let us know in the comments below!
1. Get Rid of Stuff Before Moving in Together
Before you move in, sort through your individual places and decide what you want to get rid of and what you want to keep. Certain items might not work in a joint space or may be too big or old for a new start. Don't be afraid to let go of items that don't work.
2. Go Through Magazines Together
Buy a few magazines and flip through the pages to determine what styles you prefer. Grab a marker and circle decor, furniture and color schemes that speak to you. After you are done, exchange magazines and discuss what you like and dislike about each other's style. It will lead to an open dialogue so you can compromise on your decorating tastes.
3. Purchase Decor Together
Going shopping together will help define your preferences. Picking out a new sofa, dining table or a bedroom set can be a fun and revealing experience. Choosing the accessories like curtains and pictures will also help you put together the details in your space.
4. Maintain Balance
Neither person's style should dominate the shared space. Make it a joint effort instead of focusing on the individual. If you get to choose the carpet, let your partner decide on the backsplash. Give and take in decorating can go a long way in maintaining a balance.
5. Mix Masculine and Feminine Styles
If you like floral prints and he prefers neutrals, there are ways to mix and match both styles. Try creating a neutral backdrop and intermingle floral designs in accent pieces like vases, curtains, rugs or pillows.
6. Be Willing to Compromise
Living together means compromising. If he really wants to keep that recliner he's had for years, ask him if you can reupholster it with new fabric. In most situations, there's room to find a happy medium.
7. Create a Warm and Cool Palette
Women tend to gravitate toward more velvety textures while men prefer a colder palette, like steel. One dominant palette will result in an imbalance in the space. In the kitchen, a cooler blend will look more appropriate while in your living room, creating a warmer palette will be more inviting and cozy.
8. Make a Chore List
Every space will need cleaning, so make a list of cleaning chores and decide who will tackle which task. Having a discussion about it will prevent arguments in the future about who needed to vacuum or take out the trash.
9. Regularly Maintain Your Living Space
Decorating is the fun part of living together, but to keep it looking nice, you need to maintain it. Regularly check if appliances are working, water and air filters are changed and paint is retouched both inside and outside. This way your place will look nice for years to come.
10. Have Fun
The most important piece of advice when decorating together is to have fun. With every new phase of a relationship, realize there will be twists and turns, but keeping it light and fun can make a difference.
Do any of these tips stand out to you? I personally am all about the "chore list"! It's easy to overlook if it's not written down, and yes, it will help avoid arguments as to whom was the last to have done the dishes. Let us know what worked for you, or hasn't, or what you will take away from these suggestions.