Even when you’re completely in love with your spouse, you find yourself asking, “How do I know he’s The One?” We blame K-Dramas for making you doubt your relationship because he didn’t tie your shoelace or protect you from school bullies throwing eggs at you, but you don’t need a great romantic gesture to know you’re dating the right person to wed.
Look for these indicators that you’ve discovered the one and not on luck and angel numbers, say marriage counselors and psychologists.
1. YOU AGREE ON VALUES.
Make sure you and the other person share the same values if you’re thinking about being with them for the rest of your life.
According to research, partnerships that are based on shared values have a considerably higher likelihood of lasting.
2. AROUND HIM, YOU CAN BE YOURSELF
It’s common to exhibit multiple parts of ourselves in various contexts — you can be the driven employee at work, the introspective yogi on Instagram, or the witty companion in your social circle. But when you’re with The One, you can be completely honest and open with him without worrying about being judged, and you’ll feel like he sees you.
3. CONFLICTS CAN BE HEALTHY.
The fact that he is The One does not guarantee that he will never disagree with you. A clue that you two might be able to work together in the long run is healthy conflict. When you can express your thoughts and needs to your partner in a healthy and polite manner during disagreement, you know you’re in the correct kind of relationship.
4. YOU FEEL UNCONDITIONALLY SUPPORTED AND LOVED
His love and support are among the clearest indicators that he is The One. A key component of a happy relationship is feeling your partner’s emotional support. You know you’ve got a good one when he patiently listens to you complain after a long, stressful day at work, encourages you when you discuss your dreams, and pays attention to how you feel every day.